Thursday, May 31, 2012
Can You Keep A Secret?
This Summer is a busy time for me. I haven't felt compelled write about a particular thought. I am doing quite a bit of reading, blogs, books...the Bible. During some of that reading I came across this blog which I am going to share with you, Secrets in a Public World. I find her thoughts very intriguing and insightful, especially in the digital age in which we live. What do you think?
Friday, May 11, 2012
What Mom's want for Mother's Day
Happy Mother's Day! Moms you do so much for your children for which we are ignorant and negligent. You rock. I hope that on whatever day you celebrate you have a GREAT day.
Now, having said that, I have a question for you. Do you trust your husband? Do you feel comfortable leaving your child(ren) in his care? I was listening to a radio station on my way to work this morning and heard what mother's REALLY wanted for Mother's Day. They wanted a nice, relaxing, do nothing day...or a day that they could go and do something just for them. But of those that said that a very HIGH percentage said they "worried" about leaving their child(ren) in care of the husband.
I understand that you have a heightened sense of protectiveness about your "babies" and dads...well, dads seem to lack that particular gene. But come on, you don't TRUST your husband to, "feed the kids, make sure they get to bed on time, or FEED THEM!" Really!? I don't understand. You felt him trustworthy enough to get married, provide (or help provide) for you, and have children with him BUT when it comes to being gone for a day or even a few hours you are afraid this same man will somehow break, kill, starve, or "mess up" your child(ren)
My wife once took a job as a Nanny for a family. The mother interviewing her asked, "Who will be taking care of your children while you are away?" My wife replied, "My husband." "REALLY!? You trust him?" We laughed about it then but it makes me sad there is so much mistrust of dads.
DADS. If you are reading this so far, you might be saying AMEN! But I have some words for you too. Women's distrust of men isn't without merit. For too many years we have just passed our 'fathering' duties with the bare minimum. Some dads think that providing a home and food on the table is the extent of what they should "have" to do. WRONG. Coming from someone who grew up without a father, you have much more to offer than just money. Your influence, guidance, love, grace, discipline not to mention the things that you are good at that mom isn't, is needed...wanted.
Dads, society plays a part in how we parent. It doesn't excuse us but look at the TV fathers of 'yester year' in comparison with the TV fathers of today: Ben Cartwright (Bonanza), Andy Taylor (Andy Griffith Show), Porter Ricks (Flipper), Cliff Huxtable (The Cosby Show) compared with Archie Bunker (All in the Family), Raymond Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond), Homer Simpson (Simpsons), Tim Taylor (Home Improvement).
You might say those last guys weren't bad...they were FUNNY! I might agree with you but we aren't looking for funny we are looking for "father figures." Somewhere we have accepted the idea that we, as fathers, are dumb and funny. They are worth a laugh or two but are NOT role models and definitely not trustworthy or have any sage wisdom to offer. Is that true?
Sometimes we, as families, need help. We don't like that concept...Help. We like to think that WE are PERFECT but the Smith's/Jone's...THEY are really messed up. That's where people like Dr. Matt Crain can help us to be the families we want to be. Find him. Invite him to your church. Listen to him. He knows what he is talking about.
Now, having said that, I have a question for you. Do you trust your husband? Do you feel comfortable leaving your child(ren) in his care? I was listening to a radio station on my way to work this morning and heard what mother's REALLY wanted for Mother's Day. They wanted a nice, relaxing, do nothing day...or a day that they could go and do something just for them. But of those that said that a very HIGH percentage said they "worried" about leaving their child(ren) in care of the husband.
I understand that you have a heightened sense of protectiveness about your "babies" and dads...well, dads seem to lack that particular gene. But come on, you don't TRUST your husband to, "feed the kids, make sure they get to bed on time, or FEED THEM!" Really!? I don't understand. You felt him trustworthy enough to get married, provide (or help provide) for you, and have children with him BUT when it comes to being gone for a day or even a few hours you are afraid this same man will somehow break, kill, starve, or "mess up" your child(ren)
My wife once took a job as a Nanny for a family. The mother interviewing her asked, "Who will be taking care of your children while you are away?" My wife replied, "My husband." "REALLY!? You trust him?" We laughed about it then but it makes me sad there is so much mistrust of dads.
DADS. If you are reading this so far, you might be saying AMEN! But I have some words for you too. Women's distrust of men isn't without merit. For too many years we have just passed our 'fathering' duties with the bare minimum. Some dads think that providing a home and food on the table is the extent of what they should "have" to do. WRONG. Coming from someone who grew up without a father, you have much more to offer than just money. Your influence, guidance, love, grace, discipline not to mention the things that you are good at that mom isn't, is needed...wanted.
Dads, society plays a part in how we parent. It doesn't excuse us but look at the TV fathers of 'yester year' in comparison with the TV fathers of today: Ben Cartwright (Bonanza), Andy Taylor (Andy Griffith Show), Porter Ricks (Flipper), Cliff Huxtable (The Cosby Show) compared with Archie Bunker (All in the Family), Raymond Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond), Homer Simpson (Simpsons), Tim Taylor (Home Improvement).
You might say those last guys weren't bad...they were FUNNY! I might agree with you but we aren't looking for funny we are looking for "father figures." Somewhere we have accepted the idea that we, as fathers, are dumb and funny. They are worth a laugh or two but are NOT role models and definitely not trustworthy or have any sage wisdom to offer. Is that true?
Sometimes we, as families, need help. We don't like that concept...Help. We like to think that WE are PERFECT but the Smith's/Jone's...THEY are really messed up. That's where people like Dr. Matt Crain can help us to be the families we want to be. Find him. Invite him to your church. Listen to him. He knows what he is talking about.
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